Dear Pain Akka,
I am a young man from Tenkasi, Tamil Nadu. Previously, you have answered a successful 30 year old woman who works from home and is avoiding marriage proposals arranged by parents and brother. You should look at the dangers of advice given to a woman whose egg production and quality may already be declining in her 30s. If she marries now, she is likely to have children but you advise against it. It idealizes the ‘Last Man’ or ‘Last Woman’ who have no children, are highly successful urbanites, and travel around the world to enjoy as much as possible without an heir. This is the end of their dynasty. Being a mother is the biggest thing for a woman. Parents and brothers are doing a favor for her to get married at the earliest. You can enjoy endlessly and retire at 40, but that’s a waste of youth. You should have advised him to get married.
– very hives boy
Dear EGG,
Your mail has exploded in my inbox like a chocolate bomb from your neighboring city of Sivakasi. And with the same amount of noise and smoke. I am having cough. In fact, I’ll need a Kofka lozenge to calm down and answer your real fears about the future of mankind.
I am always pleasantly pleased that when there is a large number of female feticides, the houses of such existence are never expressed by well-meaning males who, you will agree, increase the female’s ovum production capacity. Takes away long ago.
There was a similar family in my housing society as well. The brother always used to do favors for the sister. Insist that she get married. Censoring his phone calls. He was slapped for coming home late. Everything for his well being and ovum count. Then the girl got someone to marry. His senior in college who loved him. But the brother did not like this boy. So he did the greatest favor and killed them both. As you can imagine, no one had a chance to ascertain the quality of the woman’s ovum, but since she was 20, she must have been healthy.
Like you, I am also surprised that young women are not getting excited to cook husband’s favorite dish and clean the kids’ bum. There is more to enjoy than earning a hefty salary and traveling around the world. But alas, more and more young women are saying, You have motherhood, we shall rejoice. They are clearly focusing a lot more on the here and now than the heirs and the extras.
Then there is Meera, the daughter of the family in Flat 17C. Both parents are working, brother is doing engineering and Meera is doing computer science. Naturally, a busy family means Mom and Meera have to cook a lot. I have often seen that Meera is so focused on making omelets for the family that her own eggs are being completely sidelined. Will the brother finish his breakfast and hunt for the husband or will he focus on his boiled eggs? We don’t know. The suspense is strong.
Now that women are more interested in increasing wages than less eggs, maybe it’s time for men to become single mothers? Adoption, surrogacy, there are so many descent options these days.
Meanwhile, what is certainly pleasing are India’s population figures. Last time I checked, it was 1.4 billion, which was about 17% of all humans in the world. You need not be afraid of the early extinction of the Indian race. There may not be much air to breathe, but there is certainly a lot of heir moving around.
, Come
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