His story: “My sister-in-law was sitting on my husband’s lap and he was watching an adult movie” – Times of India

Her Story: I found my husband and his sister sitting in a strange way. She is a 20 year old college girl and my husband is 28. She was sitting on his lap and they were watching basic instincts together. When I asked them what was happening, none of them budge, it was so natural to them… I’ve never felt so uncomfortable. I don’t know how to bring it up with my in-laws. When I tried to talk to my husband about this, he got angry. How can I not get it? They are adults! What should I do?

Her Story: My little sister and I have been very close and we have our own inner jokes. My sister was sitting on my lap because she’s like a baby and we were just watching a Sharon Stone movie. My wife found this disgusting and yelled at me for our behaviour. I don’t understand what is wrong?

Karthika Kanishk Sharma, Relationship Coach: Relationships are always connected by a delicate thread. Sometimes it can be really difficult to understand the equation between a man and a woman. So you need to take your wife into confidence. You have to sit with him and explain to him. Understand that there are men in our society who rape women, even those who are linked by blood. So while you are right, you should make that clear to him as well. If you do this with love, she will understand.

Nidhi Behl Vats, relationship expert and founder of Souls Story: Every house has its own boundaries and a level of openness to each other. You need to understand this. In some families, I love you, hugs are a common way of expressing love. However, there is a certain level of strictness in some families and they only have to obey respectful orders to express their love/respect. You probably need to expand your level of understanding. Second, instead of yelling at your husband, you could share with him, “Your sister is growing up, I know you both share a special bond, but I just want you to know about her.” I should be careful so that he does not get into any trouble these days! Like our society is like this.’

So, by saying this you are not seeming objectionable. Maybe he is able to take this thing from the right perspective. Always remember, not everything is as it seems. There could be more truth in the sentence. Also, you can ask for old family photos if you’re still not satisfied. You can see how the family reacts to their bonding. Maybe it would be really normal for them.

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